Grief and Resettlement: Navigating Your New Reality After Loss

Grief isn’t just an emotional journey; it often involves significant life changes. "Resettlement in grief" might mean relocating to a new home or adjusting to a different daily routine. While daunting, these changes offer a chance for renewal and self-discovery.
By illume Editorial Team
Last updated: Nov 21, 2023
3 min read
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Experiencing the loss of a loved one can feel like being adrift in a vast, uncharted ocean. Waves of sorrow may seem endless, and the thought of moving forward – or simply “resettling” – can be overwhelming. Whether you’re facing the prospect of moving after a loss or managing change after grief, it’s important to acknowledge that this journey, though challenging, can also be a path toward healing and growth.

Embracing Resettlement in Grief

Grief isn’t just an emotional process; it often involves physical and practical changes too. “Resettlement in grief” might mean relocating to a new home, adjusting to a different daily routine, or even reimagining your future plans. While these changes can be daunting, they also offer a chance for renewal and self-discovery.

Moving After a Loss: A Step Towards Healing

Deciding to move after losing someone dear is a significant step. This decision might be driven by practical needs, a search for a fresh start, or a combination of both. Regardless of the reason, moving can be both a logistical challenge and an emotional journey.

Change, in the wake of loss, can seem like an additional burden. It’s crucial to approach these changes with patience and self-compassion. Remember, there’s no “right” way to grieve, and similarly, there’s no universal blueprint for managing life changes post-loss.

Strategies for Navigating Resettlement

  • Acknowledge Your Feelings: Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions arise. It’s normal to experience a range of feelings, from sadness and anger to relief and hope.
  • Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or grief support groups. For those who prefer digital support, the Grief Works app offers a structured course and a community for those in mourning, inspired by Julia Samuel’s insightful work.
  • Take Small Steps: Break down the process of moving or other changes into manageable tasks. This helps prevent feeling overwhelmed.
  • Create Rituals of Remembrance: As you move to a new place or adapt to changes, find ways to honor your loved one. This could be through photos, keepsakes, or new traditions.
  • Prioritize Self-Care: Grief can be exhausting. Prioritize your well-being through activities like exercise, meditation, or simply getting enough rest.
  • Embrace New Beginnings: While honoring the past, allow yourself to explore new interests, relationships, and experiences.
  • Professional Guidance: If you find it particularly challenging to cope, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide valuable support and strategies.

Practical Tips for Moving After a Loss

  • Plan Ahead: Make a checklist for your move. This includes sorting belongings, transferring utilities, and updating addresses.
  • Ask for Help: Don’t hesitate to ask friends or family for assistance, whether it’s packing or just offering a listening ear.
  • Honor Memories: Keep some belongings of your loved one, if it brings comfort. However, it’s also okay to let go of items when you’re ready.
  • Familiarize with the New Area: Explore your new neighborhood to create a sense of belonging and familiarity.

Adapting to Change: A Mindful Journey

  • Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that adapting to change is a process. It’s okay to have good days and bad days.
  • Establish New Routines: Creating new routines can provide a sense of stability and normalcy.
  • Explore New Interests: Consider taking up new hobbies or joining community groups. These can be excellent ways to make new connections and find joy.


Resettling after a loss is a deeply personal journey, one that is unique to each individual. Whether you’re contemplating a physical move or simply trying to navigate life’s changes post-loss, remember to be gentle with yourself. Embracing this journey with patience, support, and self-care can lead to unexpected growth and healing.

For additional support, consider the Grief Works app. Its structured approach and supportive community can be a valuable resource in your journey through grief and resettlement.

In times of change, hold onto hope. Each small step you take is a testament to your strength and resilience. Remember, it’s not about moving on, but moving forward – with your loved one’s memory as a guiding light.

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